as requested by her royal highness, princess tracy.
im supposed to write about her, and us. so here goes.
its been 4 years, and 1 month+, since our fairytale began. i wouldnt say its a long time. not the 10 years that my cousin was together with her sweetheart before getting married in 2010. but i would say it isnt short either. lots of ups and downs, with more ups than downs definitely, as we journey through life together.
strangely, not long after we got together, we had the opportunity to live together and face each other almost every minute for 2.5 months continuously. sure, we were in the 'honeymoon' stage, but as the saying goes, its 1 thing to go out on dates every evening, and another matter altogether to live together. yes we quarrelled, 4-5 times i think, but i think the entire experience was a very positive and memorable one. i was sure i chose the right girl when i asked her to be my gf. and Europe 2008 reaffirmed my choice. fast forward 4 years, no we havent got another chance to live together for 2.5 months. 2.5 weeks at the most, when we went for 1 of our many trips together. yes we still quarrel, but definitely we are no longer in the 'honeymoon' stage. i would say we know each other extremely well now, and have a strong and healthy relationship. im still extremely sure she is the one.
ok i know i have an emphasis on quarrels. but human relations are very tough to manage. the warm and fuzzy feelings are easy, its the quarrels and fights that are tough. and make or break a relationship. thankfully we dun fight. i've nv hit any member of the opposite sex before. for any reason. but yes, we quarrel. i thought of attempting to avoid this, but it will happen, despite my best intentions. and i thought of not bringing up old topics during quarrels. or not quarrel because of the same reasons as previous quarrels. i've failed. we are both hot-tempered people, so we have a tendency to quarrel. i've come to realise that quarrelling is actually healthy if the frequency is not crazily regular. that way we know something is wrong in the relationship, and we can try to work it out.
tracy is a very smart person who is very sharp and observant. she prides herself for being right most of the time and i've learnt not to question that. her memory is also very good, and i admit mine is getting worse. hence i rely on her for alot of things, and seek her advice on almost everything. her fashion sense is unparalleled, and fortunately i like most of the stuff that she likes. unfortunately she doesnt like alot of the stuff that i used to like, though thankfully this isnt a problem now. we are actually very similar characters - impatient and temperamental. however, i guess we have more or less learnt how to handle and live with each other, at least i think i did.
2012 will be a big year for us. we'll be getting married. and our house will be ready this year. ahead of time :) are we getting married for the house? yes, i'll be bs-ing if i said no. but we din expect the house to be ready earlier either. we wanted to space out our mega projects. obviously we cant have the house first. so we are getting married first. im actually suibian. i could do a bali wedding. i could do the hotel dinner. but honestly, i just want a house of my own, with my darling princess. alas i've been idling and havent made my 1st million by the age of 28. hence we cant afford a condo in which we can live in without getting married first. actually i didnt even think of getting a house back then. it was tracy who saw the news and told me the location was good. and i decided to try our luck since we heard it was difficult to get a BTO unit. we applied, and the rest is history. good foresight on our part, as we cant even apply for a BTO now even if we wanted to. we'll then be stuck. no $$ for a condo, no rights for a BTO, and tracy doesnt want resale.
back to the wedding. fortunately im suibian. so i'll go with whatever tracy wants. apparently im told that being suibian is not desirable. i was so confused. now im learning to be suibian without being suibian. tough huh. i know. im learning something new everyday. engagement ring, check. hotel dinner, check. bridal studio, check. wedding bands, check. bigger engagement ring, check. PG VG, check. im told there are lots of preparations to be done for a wedding. i dun know if we missed anything, but we feel very comfortable and relaxed so far :) No stress! given our capable planning and organisation in our 4+ years thus far, im sure it'll be great. and on the house, 0 planning done thus far. except that we are going for ID. we're more excited about the house actually. cant wait! btw if you are reading this, i checked the floor plan and theres no measurements for the windows.
yes, the wedding and the upcoming love-nest with tracy is great. but as pat asked, how do you know she is the one? he had posed this question more than once to more than 1 person, and i agree the usual answers arent satisfying. 'its a feeling, you just know it'. i've thought about it, it is a feeling i agree. but for me, as i've said on the day we got together, its important to me that i feel very comfortable and happy when im with the girl. i can be myself, feel at ease with no awkwardness, all these still hold true after 4+ years. People do change, but my relationship with tracy is even stronger now. I consult her for everything, even the car i want to buy, and i rely on her for many things. yes, i've never had another girlfriend, so i dun know how good or bad tracy is in comparison. but i've interacted with quite a few girls, and no one gave me the feeling that tracy gave, to want to get to know them better and have neverending conversations with them. i guess, im very contented and happy, and i dun see the need to find a better one in comparison. i may be settling for less ultimately, but i dun really care.
i love you, tracy! heres to a great 2012 and beyond~
